Category Archives: Couples/Relationships/Family

Perfectionism and Christmas: How NOT to Ruin the Holiday – for yourself and others

By Matt W. Sandford, LMHC Perfectionists can really love Christmas. And, perfectionists can really be extra frustrated at Christmas, meaning that those around them may struggle with more stress and frustrations and hurt feelings as well. “We really need to … Continue reading

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What to Do with Past Promiscuity?

BY Matt W. Sandford, LMHC Sometimes folks come to me and we are working on something and inevitably their past comes up. It could be about some kind of mistreatment or abuse or of some dysfunction in their past environment. … Continue reading

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The Five Do’s and Don’ts After a Relationship Ends

BY Matt W. Sandford, LMHC When a marriage or relationship is over there is of course a lot of heartache, upheaval, and a strong longing for normalcy. The longing to not be in pain and to have stability again can … Continue reading

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The 8 Worst and Best Ways to Handle Irate and Irrational People: Part 2

By Matt W. Sandford, LMHC Last time I wrote on the 8 unproductive ways people often respond to irate people, and how these approaches fall short. This time I want to offer my take on the 8 effective ways to … Continue reading

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The 8 Worst and Best Ways to Handle Irate and Irrational People: Part 1

By Matt W. Sandford, LMHC People can get very upset and angry sometimes, can’t they? And some people, when they get upset, lash out at others. And some of those who attack or lash out, can get pretty irrational and … Continue reading

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What if You Are In Relationship With an Immature Person, What Then?

By Matt W. Sandford, LMHC Not long ago I wrote about how to spot an immature person, in order to help you to hone your abilities of discernment so you could reduce your chances of getting in deep with an … Continue reading

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I’ve Got a Secret; Sex Isn’t What the Media Says It Is

By Matt W. Sandford, LMHC How many of you have bought into it; that is, what the media represents sex to be? You know, they portray sex to be a wildly exciting and fun activity that you can do with … Continue reading

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How to Spot an Immature Person

By Matt W. Sandford, LMHC “Grow up!” people will say, usually when you are doing something that annoys them. But I wonder how skilled you are at actually identifying immaturity? I wonder this because of the frequency in which I … Continue reading

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What If Your Valentine’s Days Have Become Boring? Here’s 3 Ways to Fight it

By Matt W. Sandford, LMHC We’ve all seen enough movies to have a glamorous view of the heights of romantic love. And many of us have had that experience of falling into the heady swoon of being caught up in … Continue reading

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The 4 Rules of Fair Fighting: How to Work Things Out

By Matt W. Sandford, LMHC Do all couples fight? Over the years I’ve certainly seen plenty that do, and I’ve also have seen a fair share who claim they don’t or that they never saw their parents fight. It’s my … Continue reading

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